Friday, March 12, 2010

A New Identity...

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Throughout my life I can remember certain characters I relate to that I've either read about or seen in a movie etc.  For example, when I was dating I really related to Elizabeth Bennet from Pride and Prejudice, because she knew what she was looking for in a man and stood up for herself.  (I can't say I was always perfect with that but when I had to I would get in to some verbal sparring that even Elizabeth would have been proud of.) Or when I was needing to get away I felt like Jo March from Little Women, who so desperately needed to chart her own path in life. Jo went to New York, I went to London.

But I think after you get married there is a period of time where you are trying to figure out your new identity.  At our wedding reception a dear friend was talking to me, at the very end of the night before we left, and just looked me in the eye and said that this will be an interesting time for me.  She said that right after she got married she went through a hard time, figuring out her new identity.  I didn't know what to expect but I'm so glad she shared that with me because I feel that way too.

So many things have changed, and I am so very happy with my husband, but then now who am I? I had 24 years of figuring out single Meg.  Married Meg?  Hmmm.  I still don't have a very clear answer about who I am now but I am thankful that God has been bringing me near so He can shape me.  But funny enough I have been watching Leave it to Beaver recently.   And I find myself relating to June Cleaver.  She is what I want to be, a house-wife, and she does it so well.  She is a sweet and gentle presence in her home.  She is very feminine and content at home.  I can't wait to start that part of my life when kids come and I can stay at home all the time, but we're just getting started!  (and I'm still on my journey figuring out ole' Married Meg)

6 comments:

  1. Happy Friday Follow!

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  2. It will come. And right when you have your identity as married Meg figured out, you will have to find your identity and married mommy Meg. It is all part of the refining journey as we grow in our relationship with the Lord and our husbands and later our children. It is a wonderful journey.

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  3. So true! It took me awhile to figure that one out...and then resting in the confidence of what I discovered! I hope your weekend is a good one. Come on over to "Windy Poplars" and visit again soon!

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  4. Hi Meggy, I can relate! Right when I finally discovered who I was as a single girl, I met Ben. I was independent and self-sufficient and I had to learn how to be with someone... how to let someone in and understand who I was with this other person around. I also think it is important to not only find an identity as Chris' wife but as Meg Fletcher. I was Ben's wife for so long, but it felt right when I was finally Stephanie Gimlin... if that makes sense :)

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  5. So true! As women we definitely have a lot on our plate, especially as wives and mothers. It's a joyful journey, but often it can be confusing and challenging too. I can't say that I've figured it out quite yet, but I do think I'm getting better with time. I know very early on it was quite challenging. It seems to get easier though.

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  6. Thanks girls...I feel encouraged...I really appreciate the words of wisdom by girls who have been there!

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